I wish I could tell you that there is going to be some rhyme or reason to these posts. I wish for my sake that there was rather than the constant barrage of random thoughts that plague me daily. Instead, I guess I will have to settle for whatever comes to me each day. I am ALWAYS reading and being curious so I come across so many great ideas I want to share. I am naturally an explorer. I also believe we never stop learning and that maybe even we are here to learn…maybe THAT is our purpose. How about for shits and giggles we stick to that thought and tell ourselves that it is true. Wouldn’t that take some of the pressure off?
Today’s random musing comes from an interview I watched with Marie Forleo and Arianna Huffington which you can see here. I LOVE both of them and what they bring to the world. I guess I could say they are a few of my mentors of which I have many. I just wish these mentors knew they were my mentors and wanted to be besties and come over for a cup of tea. How cool would that be? Anyway, I digress….and this will happen A LOT. In this video, something Arianna said just struck me right between my eyeballs. Do you ever have that experience when something rings so true it is an A-Ha moment? It really changes the way you see the world when this happens. I think this occurs because we only use 10% of our brain (so “they” say) and we get so used to seeing the world a certain way that we can’t expand our mind to see outside of the box.
So anyway, in the interview, Arianna shared this incredibly mind altering concept. Are you ready to have your mind blown???? She said that you can complete a project by dropping it! Can you believe it!? WOW! WHOA! We don’t have to finish every thing we start, we don’t have to complete our never-ending to do list, we don’t have to force ourselves to finish that project that has been lurking around causing us stress and telling us we are a failure. We can choose to say that it no longer serves us at this time and move on. And in doing so we can move on to what really makes us thrive and flourish. Yay! Who doesn’t want that?
Now, here is where we come up against the doubt and lousy self talk. You know that demeaning voice in your head don’t you? I am sure you are very well acquainted. Using myself as an example, I have a photography website that is three years in the making. Seriously. It is out there for the world to see…unfinished. I have no idea what is stopping me from finishing it but I can’t do it to save my life. I have lost interest. I am guessing it has something to do with the idea that I am ready to move on to something new and part of it is because it is so damn overwhelming to deal with the technical aspect of it all. You will learn that technology and I don’t always get along. In fact, we rarely do. It is almost as if there is this black hole around me that makes technology stop functioning properly. It is true; ask my husband. He has witnessed this time and time again.
So with this new idea that Arianna has blessed me with, I can actually just say good riddance to the pressure that has been hanging over my head for all this time to get this stinking website done. Enter stage left, the evil voice in my head. I am in its wicked clutches. The voice tells me that I am a failure if I don’t complete this. If I don’t how will I ever be able to finish this new website? Why even start? Because I am big on closure (what is up with that?), I am in its grip even more so. I know you know what I am talking about.
I say let’s embrace this new train of thought and give ourselves a break. The pressure we feel is only coming from ourselves. Women are so hard on themselves to be perfect and get it all done single-handedly. How is that working out for you? YOU created the list or the project and only YOU can say enough! It is no longer working for me. No one even knows it exists but you…well, you and the voice in your head (I think we need to name him…notice how it automatically becomes male?). No one is calling me every day saying that I need to finish my website. And screw closure! My sanity is more important. Spending time in nature and with my family is more important.
Sooooo instead of making to do lists by the thousands, let’s make a “dropping it” list. I can feel the tightness in my shoulders releasing just by typing those words. Are you with me? What are you going to gladly drop today? Thanks go to Arianna for enlightening us. Hooray! xoxox
Photo Credit: Rene Schute